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Time for Reflection and Embracing Humility August 18, 2012

Posted by Karuana in Life Strategies, Self Improvement, Spirituality.
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Often in my packed life I wish for more time. Time for friends, lazy walks on the beach or a long afternoon nap. Ah, sounds great doesn’t it? When I get this time (and luckily I do) I am often struck by the insights I’ll get just from doing apparently nothing for awhile. The brain is an amazing entity as the creative part can kick in when you release a need to focus on the controllable details of living.

I treasure the time I get to sit on the porch and let my mind wander. In these moments – no matter how brief – I’m struck by an overwhelming sense of gratitude that my purpose driven life is so full. I know I am living my destiny and feel like a healthy productive part of this world.

That feeling is something I have sought for a very long time and being committed to a spiritual path and truly embracing humility has enabled it to grow in my day to day life. The less my life is all about me, the more fulfilling it is in every area. From my day technology career to my spiritual counseling practice I have an opportunity to share experience, strength and hope with people. This is a privilege that I’m lucky to enjoy.

No matter what you are doing in your life you have these things to share as well. The world is in need of more culturally creative people who are willing to share their unique ideas. You are this person. Go forth. Share, solve and remember to sit on the porch and be grateful. I’ll see you there.


Trust as Action on Beltane’s Eve May 1, 2012

Posted by Karuana in Life Strategies, Self Improvement, Spirituality.
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There are times when I’ve wondered exactly how I became a spiritual counselor.  Besides my ancestry, training, love for spirituality and my desire to help others exactly how did I get here?  It’s simple.  I have trust issues.

For more reasons than I can write here I’ve never been very trusting of other people.  I used to draw people who continually let me down or didn’t seem to value my love, time or attention.  I was often disappointed in other people’s actions and left feeling as if I was the only one who I could count on to accomplish the task at hand.

As you can imagine this can take a toll on a woman.  Eventually, you become paralyzed by your own expectations and to-do list.  Truly, you can’t do everything.  I also found it damaging to my relationships.  If you want to make sure no one will ever be there for you, stop sharing  your true needs with them.  Slowly over time they will forget you have needs of your own.  They will forget to honor your spirit in all the ways that a healthy person needs to be cared for.  They will stop seeing the real you because you have hidden that behind your Super-Woman cape.

If this goes on for long enough you will soon feel isolated in your own life, unable and often unwilling, to allow others to help you with even the small things.  This often looks like control issues.  Every time I hear someone use that overworked term, no matter how true, I now think about the underlying trust that is required to allow people to love and care for you. So many of us have a very difficult time receiving anything and this is centered in our inability to trust.

So I searched for something I could trust.  I read spiritual books, expanded my meditation practice and committed to this path that I have been on since I was a small child.  What I discovered was a vast and exciting Universe.  One that was governed not by the character defects of other people or by a judgmental invisible power but by laws and principles that I could understand.  Through this education and study I found something to trust.

As these principles of the Platinum Rule, Karma, homeostasis, expansion and free will began to simmer down into my spirit something changed.  I did.  My behavior towards others slowly began to transform.  I began to see people more clearly, make better decisions and communicate my own needs with more compassion and clarity.  Knowledge became action.  In short I became more trustworthy myself.

My trust of something greater than myself changed my behavior and I began to have more trustworthy people around me.  This slow transformation in my own life has allowed me to share my talents, in all my affairs, with more grace and humility.  I became less focused on self and more focused on others.  All of these things, these Universal gifts which I have been blessed to seek and receive, have allowed me to become the counselor that I am today.  It was definitely an inside job.

Tomorrow is Beltane.  It is a time for celebration, optimism and a blessing for a strong harvest that will come for us all later in the year.  It is a time to honor the male and female in this world with equal gratitude. My harvest is not a crop of corn but wisdom.  I hope for a harvest that is plentiful so that my table will be full for sharing with others. I’ve never liked to cook just for myself!

Though on the surface it seems as if we are living in troubled times our own spirits are ours to develop. Investing in your spirituality – separate and apart from whatever your religious beliefs may be – can yield gifts that are unimaginable to your current self.  Give it a try.  You might find your trust issues lessening, little by little, like I did.


Lessons on Living from Whitney Houston February 12, 2012

Posted by Karuana in Grief and Loss, Self Improvement, Spirituality.
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Yesterday Whitney Houston died. No matter what the investigators say people will have their opinions. Of course I have mine but not about how she died. My opinions are about what I learned from her living. They are simple:

Treasure Your Talents: Each of us has a unique talent that we do better than anyone else. We may not be famous for it but that doesn’t make it any less special. If you don’t know your’s then dedicate your life to finding it. If you look around you’ll see that the world needs each of us to contribute what we can to making it a better more compassionate place. When you know what it is respect yourself for it and try your best not to waste it. It is a gift.

Know You are Irreplaceable to Someone: With so much focus on celebrity in our culture it’s easy to forget that each of us has a special place in this world. You may look around in your life and not see how valuable you are. Our culture also tends to focus on the negative. Buck that trend. I am willing to bet that near you in your life is someone who thinks you are irreplaceable for your talents, humor or just your quiet presence. Know this is true even if no one says so.

Make Healthy Choices: Every day in ways large and small we are confronted with choices. This is a gift of our human existence. With this gift comes the responsibility to make choices that are sustaining to ourselves, our families and our talents. To chose self destructive behavior is to flip the bird to all that is divine in this Universe. Chose differently. There is no need to repeat the past or the mistakes of others. Be your own person and follow a drummer that will lead you out of your own personal darkness.

Never Give Up: The past is over. Let it rest in peace. While we can learn from it freedom comes from knowing that with each new choice you can create a new future. Be determined not to let the past or the voices of your own demons hold your life hostage. It’s important to commit to your future and what your path is in this world. Be committed. Be strong. Be a warrior for all that is good and fruitful in this life.

Forgive: Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Forgive the world for being an often unfair and difficult place. Your heart is intended for this purpose and from it all things can flow freely. Grudges, vengeance, self criticism and anger are emotions of the weak. They are an excuse not to seek out and treasure your talent and those who find you irreplaceable. We need to be strong and through good choices create a world we would want our children to inherit. Who will teach them to forgive the world if we don’t.

That’s it. You never know when your last day here has arrived so I think we should get busy.