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Lessons on Living from Whitney Houston February 12, 2012

Posted by Karuana in Grief and Loss, Self Improvement, Spirituality.
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Yesterday Whitney Houston died. No matter what the investigators say people will have their opinions. Of course I have mine but not about how she died. My opinions are about what I learned from her living. They are simple:

Treasure Your Talents: Each of us has a unique talent that we do better than anyone else. We may not be famous for it but that doesn’t make it any less special. If you don’t know your’s then dedicate your life to finding it. If you look around you’ll see that the world needs each of us to contribute what we can to making it a better more compassionate place. When you know what it is respect yourself for it and try your best not to waste it. It is a gift.

Know You are Irreplaceable to Someone: With so much focus on celebrity in our culture it’s easy to forget that each of us has a special place in this world. You may look around in your life and not see how valuable you are. Our culture also tends to focus on the negative. Buck that trend. I am willing to bet that near you in your life is someone who thinks you are irreplaceable for your talents, humor or just your quiet presence. Know this is true even if no one says so.

Make Healthy Choices: Every day in ways large and small we are confronted with choices. This is a gift of our human existence. With this gift comes the responsibility to make choices that are sustaining to ourselves, our families and our talents. To chose self destructive behavior is to flip the bird to all that is divine in this Universe. Chose differently. There is no need to repeat the past or the mistakes of others. Be your own person and follow a drummer that will lead you out of your own personal darkness.

Never Give Up: The past is over. Let it rest in peace. While we can learn from it freedom comes from knowing that with each new choice you can create a new future. Be determined not to let the past or the voices of your own demons hold your life hostage. It’s important to commit to your future and what your path is in this world. Be committed. Be strong. Be a warrior for all that is good and fruitful in this life.

Forgive: Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Forgive the world for being an often unfair and difficult place. Your heart is intended for this purpose and from it all things can flow freely. Grudges, vengeance, self criticism and anger are emotions of the weak. They are an excuse not to seek out and treasure your talent and those who find you irreplaceable. We need to be strong and through good choices create a world we would want our children to inherit. Who will teach them to forgive the world if we don’t.

That’s it. You never know when your last day here has arrived so I think we should get busy.

Take Back Valentine’s Day! February 11, 2012

Posted by Karuana in Life Strategies, Relationships.
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Next week comes a dreaded day for many people. Valentines Day! February 14th can make the happiest of people depressed and for good reason. Our culture has defined it as a time when someone special, normally your life mate, pays extra special attention to you and we can all pretend to be living in a romance novel.  As much as I like to give and receive fantasy fulfillment these ideas actually do more harm than good.

Relationships are built on a common understanding and respect for each other.  I say we should take back Valentine’s Day from those who would judge our relationships based on the size of bouquets we receive!  Now, by way of disclosure I happen to be in a relationship where I get the MOST amazing flowers and many other special things on this day so I could easily be called a hypocrite. However, the truth is that what I treasure most is not the thing but the thought.

Creating and maintaining intimacy in a relationship is no easy feat.  I am grateful for a day that reminds us to tell those we care about how special they are to us and still I do not know a person who would not appreciate that sentiment at any time of the year. A dozen roses on one day will not make up for ignoring that same person the rest of the time.

More importantly what do you do if you are not romantically involved? Hide away and try not to feel worthless that you are not in a relationship? Well I think that’s where we need to make a break from old ideas!  Everyone is in a relationship! With themselves, their families and the world around them. I suggest taking time to share your appreciation for those people as well.

This Valentine’s Day I challenge all the unattached to do something special for someone else in your life. Go ahead send flowers to your Aunt or get a humorous card for a friend. Take it further and send something anonymously to someone who you know is down!  Take action, take this day back and give it new life and meaning.

Everyone deserves to feel special. Now is your chance to spread kind, loving energy into the world!  Now that’s a day I can get behind!